Feel of it.......

Wifey number 1... younger sister... 13-ish... whenever she found something with a nice, unusual, different 'feel' (a piece of material, an object, etc) she'd hold it out toward you and say "Feel of it." Kinda fun, perhaps a tad bassackwards, but - a lifetime memory..

Feel of it get's me through life. Had'a fellow teacher back in the day... VERY, VERY respected, not only in Education, but in the City of Liberty... Serious, very, and always. I'll never forget her saying "I just can't imagine laughing, funning all the time.. and I feel sorry for those that do."

Whilst I loved her, I strongly disagree, and again, I get by on 'feel of it.'

I slip, sure. But... try to live life wide-eyed, "catch the good"... "sieze the moment"... "Don't pass an opportunity to laugh"... to try to put a smile on someone's face... to perhaps lighten a mood.

I've found, over time - stronger relationships develop due to this. (Sure Victor, is that why you're twice-divorced?).. Ok, Ok, you got me - but, swear to goodness, I do live life, "feel of it."

"Example?" you might say... Well... the other day at work.. Supervisor lady in department.. great gal... great worker.. Our computer system is good, but not perfect. I had a question on a 'shipment'... she was already "in" another shipment - and there's no tabbing to look at a second shipment - to go back into the one you were working on. She sits mebbe 20 feet from me, so.... the logical thing was for her to come look at it on my screen.. First... She kinda hollered (for mebbe twelve in the area to hear) "DO YOU HAVE IT UP?"....... I got the giggles, couldn't answer.. she ran over, and funly smacked me across the head. "Feel of it."

Then... I forget occasionally. "Stressy" ex #2 usedta say. Such as the goofy FB thing of me sleeping in my chair - at work, on lunch break. Folks winged notes that I woulda winged too... but one hit me the wrong way, and I forgot completely about "feel of it"... relax, enjoy, laugh at yourself.

I've been fortunate in my lifetime to have some very good examples... parents... sister... friends... coworkers.. teachers.. many, who demonstrated/lived "feel of it." This "feel of it" is not only in humor - but in love... in like..

We go down this path but once..... I hope it's a fun one. A rewarding one. One of spreading love/like. Feel of it.

Sure, be serious about the work you do... but I vote mix in a little fun. Converse serious stuff - but every once in awhile wing in "light." Feel of it. Me thinks, again, stronger bonds are formed. Folks open up easier too it seems. Confide. Console.

Of course, the 'emotional' feel of it. I did a recent blog on my cousin, a true hero to me. His children caught wind of it, and each emailed me - and each time I received one, I reread the blog, and cried. Truly. I left an hour early that day - I was emotionally 'spent'... but... spent goes hand in hand with 'feel of it.'

I am so, so thankful to feel. Life. Love. Friendship. Feel of it.

If, into the future, I slip again, please smack me. Tell a funny joke. Remind me "Damnit Victor, if you can't laugh at yourself, then how can you laugh at anyone else?" (It's been forever and a day but I think I remember bites in the butt to be a good thing.) Did he just say that? Uh huh. Feel of it.

So yes Virginia, I respect, I honor you/your take. But from here on out, I wanna laugh, have fun, love, tell those I love "I love you" - and feel of it. Someone bite me in the butt if I forget again.

Love, Victurd.